Things I Wish I Knew Before Becoming A Mommy

before becoming a mother

I remember falling to my knees and breaking into sobs.

“I don’t know how to be a mommy,” I squeaked out.

I could tell my husband was trying so hard to contain his excitement because he didn’t want to upset me even more. He grabbed my face in his hands and said, “Baby, you are going to be a great mommy.”

You see, I had plans. We had made plans. We were going to be married for a few years before we started thinking about having children. Isn’t it funny how our plans rarely ever match up with God’s? His ways truly are higher than our ways! It’s not that I was against having children. I just wasn’t ready, or at least I thought I wasn’t. Everything that I thought was going to happen didn’t happen the way I thought. I look back and am so incredibly thankful that God decided for our family to start so soon. At the time, I didn’t know how much being pregnant with our oldest son would save me from myself.

(I’ll admit that I still feel guilty for how I reacted when I found out I was pregnant, because I think of all the beautiful women who struggle with infertility and it wrenches my heart!)

Don’t worry, the tears soon came to joy and I found myself reveling in the fact that I was going to be a mommy. A mommy! Years later, I am now a mommy to 3 boys, one girl on the way, and 3 beautiful heavenly babies! I feel so incredibly blessed that God would grant me this opportunity. I just pray that I don’t mess it up, though I already have several times, and I’m sure I will many more. Despite all the “help” books out there, motherhood doesn’t really come with a manual. Each child is unique and brings something new to the family table. I’ll admit that there are some things I wished I had known before I became a mother, because then maybe I could have been a little more prepared. Hmm . . . yeah . . . probably not. So, in light of mother’s day coming up, I thought I’d share some of those things I was not really prepared for.

~ Kids love being naked. I don’t get it. I can’t tell you how many times I am having to tell my boys to pull their pants up or stop running around naked! I thought I was going to escape this with our oldest because, for a while, he actually hated not having clothes on. Then, BAM, he’s streaking across the backyard in his birthday suit!

Babies have this incessant fascination with toilet paper. Okay, I should have known this one. There are centuries of photos with children sitting in piles of unrolled toilet paper. I guess I thought that my kids would never be curious about that roll of fluffy, soft stuff. HA! They don’t just unravel it, they eat it, stuff the toilet with it, shove it in their pants. Come on, boys! That’s precious money right there! One time, I found Joshua crawling through the house with one end of the toilet paper in a fist and the other end just happily unraveling as he crawled around. He made a delightful little trail throughout the house.

~ Bath time for the kids is bath time for mommy too. They love to splash, splash, splash! I confess, I’ve spent a lot of bath times hiding behind a towel or the shower curtain.

No matter how hard you try to protect them from everything, they will always find something to get in to. Our oldest has been notorious for this. He has caused us quite a few heart attack scares, like that time he ran over and touched the muffler of the lawn mower right after I finished mowing. Gah!

~ Postpartum depression is so very real! If you’ve been following my blog for some time, then you know the struggles I’ve gone through with depression and anxiety.

Sometimes people can be too quick to judge.

~ Mommy wars are real. Oh my goodness! This is something I was not prepared for AT ALL! I’m so thankful that society seems to be turning the corner as far as mothers not being so judgmental of each other goes. But, man, I never knew there were so many conflicting thoughts and opinions out there. Motherhood is stressful enough. Let’s not make it more difficult by throwing snide comments at each other.

The truth behind the shoulder fold-overs on onesies. Okay, WHY did I not know this with the first two kids?!! Whose been hiding the secrets?! I always thought the shoulder fold-overs were just for decoration. Nope! It’s so that if your baby has a blowout, you can fold those little things back and pull the onesie down instead of up over his head. Whoever came up with that idea was a GENIUS! I just wish I had known this little trick so much sooner. If you knew this long before having kids, shhhh, don’t tell me!

Grocery shopping would become a dreaded nightmare. I long and dream for the days when I can go grocery shopping all. by. myself. Alas, that doesn’t happen much. So, I’ve had to learn how to master grocery shopping with multiple children.


Getting a shower would no longer be a daily thing. Let’s face it, we’re so busy with taking care of our kids that being able to shower every day just does not happen. Oh please tell me I’m not alone in this! (I share a few of my other confessions {here}.)

Eating a whole meal would become a treat. Either my meals are interrupted by poopy diaper changes or my kids are wanting to eat what’s on my plate. I don’t mind it, but I sure am in awe when I look at an empty plate and know that I ate it all by myself!

Motherhood is so rewarding. I think this is the biggest lesson I’ve been learning more and more each day. I never knew a heart could love so much and arms could be so full. Yes, there are many difficult days when I just want to cry. But, the good moments always always always outweigh the bad. My heart is full! I am so thankful!


Happy Mother’s Day to all you beautiful mothers out there! Even if your babies are not in your arms, they are still in your hearts. You are still mothers. <3

What are some things that you wish you knew before becoming a mommy?

*Title photograph taken by Dana Bement Photography.


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