“Momma, can you push us?”
Two excited little girls sat on the merry-go-round and waited patiently for their mom to come get the fun spinning.
I watched as the young mom stood up and walked toward her daughters, her eyes not once leaving the phone she held in her hand. She pushed with her free hand and remained engaged with whatever she was reading on her phone.
Instead of gleeful giggles, silence lifted off of the merry-go-round, as the little girls simply let their bodies be spun in circles. I waited for them to smile. I waited for them to start to laugh. But, they went round and round and watched their mom.
After a few minutes, she stopped pushing the merry-go-round and returned back to her seat, still enthralled with whatever she was reading.
The oldest daughter slid off of the merry-go-round. Maybe she was 7? I couldn’t quite tell. She slowly walked to one of the swings and let it envelop her. I watched as she toed the ground with her sneakers and sneaked a look over her shoulder. Mommy was connected to her phone. The little girl let out a sigh and looked ahead.
My heart sank into my stomach. I wanted to run over to the mom and implore her to put the phone away. My heart screamed, Don’t you realize you’re so connected to your phone that you’re disconnected from your children?
And then it hit me.
The wind of reality smacked me right in the face.
How many times has that been me? Maybe not in public, but how many times at home?
Have I missed things because I was too busy scrolling through social media? Have my children implored me to look at them, just to be met with indifference?
Chills ran down my spine. Even if it’s happened only a few times, it would have been a few times too many.
Yes, I do work from home and most of my job is on the computer. But, what about the rest of the time? What about the little moments even while I’m working?
What am I missing?
Right then I decided that it’s time to be more unplugged. It’s time to unplug and be more son-plugged. (And daughter too, but it just didn’t flow as well with the phrase.)
I don’t want to see that same look of disappointment I saw on that little girl’s face fall on my own children’s faces. I don’t want their little hearts to cry out for my attention. I want them to know that I am here, with them, right now, enjoying their little moments.
So, I’ve resolved that once a week, we’re going to have a completely unplugged day with no phone, no computer, and no television. It will be a day of US, rejoicing in each other as a family.
Will you join me?
Will you take the challenge? Will you unplug for even just one day? Close the laptop, put down the phone, turn off the tv, and engage. Truly engage in the ones you love! Make time and watch your relationships flourish! You can’t get these moments back. Make the most of it while you can.
Who will join me in becoming more unplugged to be more life-plugged?