dating – The Few, The Proud, and This Marine Wife http://andthismarinewife.com Tue, 24 Mar 2015 04:21:36 -0700 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=5.3 66310415 Guest Post: The “R” Word http://andthismarinewife.com/2014/07/guest-post-r-word.html http://andthismarinewife.com/2014/07/guest-post-r-word.html#respond Tue, 29 Jul 2014 10:27:21 +0000 http://andthismarinewife.com/?p=1367 Today, my blog is being taken over again by Sierra & Faith of Winks and Eyerolls! If you remember, these lovely ladies took over my blog last Tuesday when one of them shared a post about how family history can shape your idea of relationships. It’s a great post! If you haven’t read it yet, please be sure […]

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Today, my blog is being taken over again by Sierra & Faith of Winks and Eyerolls! If you remember, these lovely ladies took over my blog last Tuesday when one of them shared a post about how family history can shape your idea of relationships. It’s a great post! If you haven’t read it yet, please be sure to hop over and check {it} out. I also want to remind you that they still have an awesome giveaway going on! You can enter in the rafflecopter below. (The giveaway ends tomorrow at 11:59 p.m. EST.)

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The “R” Word

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The “R” word, some are running from it and others are running around like a chicken with their heads chopped off in order to find the perfect person.  I’m talking about “Relationships.” The time in one’s life where we discuss our perfect match with our friends, make lists, read books and magazines, you name it, anything to make us feel as if we are getting closer to our perfect match. Will we ever really find our perfect match? I truly believe that out there in this world of 7 billion people, each one of us has our soul mate searching for us as well. How long or how hard it will take each of us to find each other, that’s a mystery that can’t be answered yet.

Being in the dating scene for a few years now, I must admit is rather exhausting but also exhilarating. I’m not one of those girls that has boyfriend after boyfriend, so it’s safe to say that I’m searching for my soul mate and someone I can see spending the rest of my life with. You might have read my sisters previous post about Family- Shaping Relationships, and about the dynamics of our family and our parents going through a divorce. Much like her, the divorce affected me as well but on a different level. While she is applying characteristics to her marriage I am using them to find my soul mate. I’m sure like many people who are in the dating world you have an idea of what you are looking for, a personality that you mesh with, or you leave the window cracked for someone unexpected. When getting to know someone, you find out about their morals, theirs dreams in life, goals, ambitions, and how they feel about children. Because of my family’s situation there are certain characteristics and moral values that are important for my guy to have.

I’m sure many of us have encountered this when dating, right around that three month mark something seems to change. Think about it, for the first few months, you put on your best face, best clothes, act the perfect combination of flirty and independent, you don’t want to seem too needy or too clingy, but once you go past the three month line you see a different person. Is it that we get comfortable with one another or is the gig up.

It’s most important to know what you are looking for in that other person, yes you are going to have to compromise, but never compromise your morals, because they make you who you are. Find out what is important to you, if that person doesn’t meet your standards, never settle for less, and remember there are 7 billion people out there. If you are looking for a gentleman that opens doors for you, and he opens the door on the first date, take notice by date two (if he gets the privilege) if he does it again. If he doesn’t, chances are not many doors will be opened. Most likely he was trying to impress you, and will probably never open that car door again.

Dating can be simple; it’s about finding the right match for you. Don’t be discouraged, God has your soul mate searching for you as you read this. One day your paths will meet and from what I’m told, “You’ll just know.”

I want to thank Lydia for allowing me the opportunity to open up and share with you. We look forward to expanding our blogging friends.

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Guest Post: Online Dating Tales http://andthismarinewife.com/2014/07/guest-post-online-dating-tales.html http://andthismarinewife.com/2014/07/guest-post-online-dating-tales.html#comments Wed, 23 Jul 2014 04:00:07 +0000 http://andthismarinewife.com/?p=1332 Today, Bailey from Becoming Bailey is taking over the blog to share with you a little about her experiences with online dating. Bailey has become a dear bloggy friend, and her blog has been both entertaining and encouraging. One of my favorite things that she writes is her Online Dating Chronicles. If I’m ever in […]

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Today, Bailey from Becoming Bailey is taking over the blog to share with you a little about her experiences with online dating. Bailey has become a dear bloggy friend, and her blog has been both entertaining and encouraging. One of my favorite things that she writes is her Online Dating Chronicles. If I’m ever in need of a good chuckle, I will seriously pop on her blog and catch up on her latest online dating ordeals. I think I’m drawn to these tales, because all three of my sisters and I did the online dating scene. My sisters all married men they met online. Evan and I didn’t meet online, but I had actually come across his online profile before we met. (Oops! Did I never tell you that? Maybe I should fill you in on that sometime.) Now, before I turn this into a full-blown blog post of my own, I will turn it over to Bailey. Please be sure to stop by her blog and show some love!

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Last week, I turned the ripe old age of 22. So when people hear that I have an online dating profile, they’re shocked. “But you’re so YOUNG?!” Yes, I am. And you know what? I love it.

I made my online dating profile last year when I realized I would never meet anyone the traditional ways: through my friends and through activities. My friends don’t know of any guys who would be a good match for me (although my friend tried once. It was an utter fail.) In my hometown, where I recently moved after graduating college, all of the guys who are “my type” have already settled down.

Besides, I could never meet anyone by sitting on my couch! You see, I’m a pretty shy person, so talking to a cute guy at a restaurant is probably the most intimidating thing that could ever happen to me. With online dating, you talk to the guy before your first date, so you feel more comfortable around him. It takes some of the awkwardness away. Yes, it’s a little awkward meeting someone you’ve never met before, but once you get past the quick “Nice to meet you” stage, it’s like you’re out with a friend.

One positive thing about online dating is the ability to “screen” guys before I ever go on a date with them. For example, I absolutely despise smoking. I can automatically set my profile to exclude smokers. Grammar and spelling is important to me (I value education) so if a guy sends me a message that says “hay qt how r u” I know we wouldn’t be a good match. Whether you’re religious, into tall guys, or want a sugar daddy, there is an online dating website out there to help you find who you’re looking for!

Sure, with online dating you have to weed through a lot of creepers, like the guy whose profile is “TwerkItMiley” and the other guy who likes only virgins so he can steal their virginity. Oh, and you can’t forget all the guys from overseas who message you in hopes of getting a green card (true story, this actually happened to a friend-of-a-friend.) As annoying as it may be, it actually makes for great stories, like this blog post of all the creepers who have interacted with me. If all else fails, you’ve gotten a good laugh out of the whole situation!

Online dating has been a great way to meet guys I would never get to meet otherwise. So far, I’ve been out with a financial advisor, a chemical engineer who works part-time for NASA and has been involved in shuttle launches, and a West Point educated Black Hawk helicopter pilot. I would have never met these guys otherwise. Even if nothing happens between us, I’m a lucky girl for just meeting such accomplished men.

The biggest reason why I really like online dating is because I’m an optimist. We all know stories of people who met online, fell in love, and got married. And if my fairy tale romance happens through the click of a mouse, well, so be it. I don’t care how I meet “The One,” just that I do.

Have you ever tried online dating? Was it successful?

If you’ve read any of Bailey’s online dating chronicles, what was your favorite story?

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