Now, everybody knows to just avoid asking the “Are you pregnant?” or “When are you due?” questions, as you might never know if the woman is actually pregnant. But, what about when a woman really is pregnant?
When a woman becomes pregnant, it seems like all these people with thoughts on the pregnancy creep out of the wood-work. They either offer unsolicited advice, ask the most bizarre questions, or make statements that should be kept behind sealed lips.
Pregnancy seems to make loose lips. And we know what loose lips do. Yep, they Continue reading →
Lately, I’ve been reading a lot of posts by moms, talking about all the things they wanted for mother’s day. Almost always, they said they wanted their pre-baby body back. Some of the posts I read were close to being hateful for the way their bodies are now. I understand being discontent. I’m still a little over 15 lbs away from my pre-pregnancy weight, despite my diet and exercise efforts. That’s beyond frustrating. I miss being able to fit into my “skinny” jeans.
Let’s face it, the body after pregnancy isn’t exactly glamorous. You get the saggy B’s: boobs, butt, and belly. I would love to have my old body back, but I would never want it back at the cost of what made me a mom. Those protruding hips, that pudgy belly, those stretch marks, those chunky thighs – all of those are expressions of the fact that remains . . . I am a mommy! Here’s the other fact that remains . . . my body will never be the same. It will never be the way it was before I had children, and you know, I’m okay with that.
I’m not saying that we should just settle with the way our bodies are. I think it’s important to be healthy and to be a good role model to our children by exercising and eating healthy. But, when we start hating how different our bodies are after pregnancy, we lose focus of the joy and reward that the pregnancy brought us. (Not to mention, there are plenty of childless women out there who would love to have all those stretch marks and extra pudginess, because it meant they were able to carry a child.) There comes a time when we need to look at our bodies and be proud of what we see, despite the changes. No, you might not ever be able to wear a bikini again, but there are plenty of super cute one-piece bathing suits that are even more flattering than bikinis and will embrace those beautiful curves that motherhood granted you.
The next time you want to start hating on your body, just look down at those tiny hands and feet that are tugging at your pants. That body that you’re hating on helped with the forming of that beautiful child. Your body is a miracle, because it created a miracle. I hope to never hear myself say to my children, “Look what you did to me,” as I point to all the stretch marks. If I do, I hope to follow that up with, “and I’m so thankful, because that means you made me a mommy!”
Don’t let the world’s description of what’s “beautiful” fool you out of believing the truth. You don’t have to be a barbie to be beautiful. You are a mommy! Take pride in that mommy body!